Quiet long back a very close friend of mine gave me powerful illustration on why we don’t fight against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers darkness (Ephesians 6: 12).
Suppose, two people are engaging in a conversation, and suddenly somebody crashes onto your back real hard, what do you do? If the intensity is really bad, and if we are people easily angered, we would definitely use some very common words to swear. Otherwise, we would just look at the person, glare and move away. And, quiet a different set of crowd, would just gently give that person a peace of their mind. Very few of us would give him the option to explain why he did collide so rashly. And, he genuinely would explain that someone else pushed him intentionally so hard towards us and that’s how he happened to fall back. Hearing that, and seeing the actual culprit, all your anger/ offenses/ irritation towards this one person shuns off.
This very illustration has stayed with me for quiet sometime. Whenever I feel the urge to punch someone with my words; I have laid hold onto this.
“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense” (Proverbs 19:11).
Yes, at times confrontation is very important. But if it is to impose your brother or sister with guilt, then my friend you have slipped into a misunderstanding. Jesus says, “Love one another as I have loved you” (John 13: 34). How did He love? By laying His life down for his betrayers, mockers, accusers and friends.
Look into our own lives, self-examine it. Are we doing it all right and with the apt motives? If yes or no, Jesus ministered love above it all. I at times wonder, if God were to confront us, with each and every sin of ours, what an awful state that would have been? Rather, He looks at His Son’s sacrifice on the cross. When we confess, “Father forgive my sins”, He wipes them all away and will choose to remember them no more (Isaiah 43: 25). Today, whatever cringe, uneasiness or offenses you would be having towards somebody, take it to the light of love.
When you lay it bear before God, He has a way of replacing those hurts with His kind of love. I agree, there isn’t justification to that person’s wrong toward you. But, leave it to God. Trust Him enough to let Him convict anyone in His Own time, in His Own Way and with His Own Words. It is gloriously loving to overlook faults of others, for then you would display yourselves appropriately as His true disciple. For in the end, the enemy alone sees vulnerable and weak people and uses them against us. If we stay wise, we would know that we should take responsibility of that person in prayer. With authority we will loosen the hold of the enemy over his/her life. That’s what love does! That’s what He did! That’s what we do to honor Him!